The duration and the intensity of the shared fantasy depend on the attachment style of the Fantasy Prone Personality (FPP).
Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store:
[ad_2]
source
The duration and the intensity of the shared fantasy depend on the attachment style of the Fantasy Prone Personality (FPP).
Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store:
[ad_2]
source
Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur.
How much trauma is needed and how severe to false self to form and take over?
My best friend and previous husband was addicted to porn… I'm aware.
Our I intimacy zero
Oh… you're talking about Porn
Reality.. needs a pinch. My ouch is silent.
Is it too late to prevent my 18 year old son to become a full fledged narcissist? His father is one and he shows strong narcissistic tendency. Until only very recently, I may have raised him as a dead mother.
I am a narcissist and I desire a long term close relationship. I had a wife and she kept everyone away from me. I lost my family, my children , my standing in the community. I was happy being a husband and father . But she had anger at me being myself . She had an affair, got pregnant, took off with my children. After that I have been terrified of allowing anyone close to me. I used to be open and have closer friends and relationships. After that I feel I don’t deserve love. I know that. I deserve love and I trust no woman. Sad , but true. What can be done?
I honestly wouldn't know how to heal if I didn't have Sam Vaknins' knowledge and wisdom. I'm going to therapy, and it helps, but only here, on this channel, I can get straightforward answers to questions in my head that I thought were part of my own craziness. Because there were times when I thought that I'm going crazy and didn't know why.
I feel like the damage is done, like it's too late for a lot of things in life that can not be undone. Therapy helps with me learning how to live with and/or around those losses, but this here on this channel goes much deeper into understanding the dynamics that made me simply feel crazy.
Thank you, Sam!!! Hvala do neba!!
Brilliant lecture!!! Every video from you brings more clearity. It feels like that clarity keeps me sane. Thank you, Prof. Vaknin for all your efforts you daily (!) make to help so much people!
It would be great if you kept making videos on attachment styles
When the false self does not merge with the fantasized self, the result is Narcissistic collapse?
terminated my relationship with my BPD 6 weeks ago who has disorganised attachment style . All the traits that Prof states is what I experienced . In the 12 months I was with him we had 3 periods of stability and peace totalling 11 weeks . The rest was filled with drama – erratic irrational behaviour . I am now trying to anchor myself again and will use your videos as part of my healing journey
I once read that men will inhibited aspergic syndrome tend to prefer histrionic women. This is true in my case since my
Mother was histrionic while I am almost aspergic.
Prof. Vaknin, in too many videos for me it seems people who has extroverted or introverted intuition as primary cognitive functions (people who have great imagination, attracted to abstract and mby daydreaming), there is something wrong about them and prone to personality disorders. Do you think there is correlation with intuitive types and personality disorders like npd and bpd?
How to change anxious to secure?
Prof. Vaknin never disappoints. Yet another great lecture.
Parents don't care if the child lives in a fantasy world…..if the parent live like that, the child too is going to live that way….. even if it's unfair and unjust for the child. THEY DON'T CARE!
My NA ex boyfriend’s family was a dysfunctional, malignant, cult like entity whose members most likely were all personality disordered. Lots of family secrets involving incest, widespread substance abuse issues, dead parents, siblings acting psychopathically, enmeshment, etc, but they presented a facade of being a close, happy family. The family maintained a shared fantasy in essence. You articulate how narcissists confabulate to account for memory gaps- this made me think of how, when I was around his family, much of their engagement was around retelling stories from the past. They would relive their “memories,” to the extent that I thought it was really strange- there was a lot of energy put into telling stories and framing them in a positive light, even if they were clearly disturbing. This narcissistic family unit had to confabulate about their shared history and reframe it in the same way that an individual with NPD would about their own history. They wove a narrative as a family and everyone had to assimilate it as truth and as lacking any pathology. He and his siblings would drag large objects onto a particular spot on a road that lacked a place to pass safely as teenagers and watch motorists swerve and cause accidents as a result of their handiwork. The siblings would laugh recalling this, they had no shame, while I sat listening with horror, thinking the obvious, that they could have killed people. It’s a good example of how a family as a whole can exhibit the same behaviors as an individual with NPD to create a slow drip shared fantasy over the course of all the members‘ lifetimes.